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Many people find it awkward or intimidating to step into the dating pool after quitting alcohol. Although it can be a daunting step to take, there are plenty of ways to make it an easier and perhaps even enjoyable experience.

Feeling everything doesn’t have to mean being overwhelmed. It can mean being deeply alive. With the right tools, sensitivity can become the very thing that grounds you, connects you, and helps you thrive.

Some people move through the world carrying an invisible weight. The lights feel brighter, the noises sharper, and emotions more intense. These are often the experiences of Highly Sensitive People (HSPs). And while that sensitivity can feel heavy or overwhelming at times, it’s also a powerful gift.

If you see someone in an unsafe situation it is your responsibility to act in some way, to the best of your ability. That creates a safer community for everyone involved and our actions speak louder than our words. True allies will act in crisis to defend trans community members, not watch passively and allow further harm to occur.

Reclaiming desire doesn’t mean just “getting your libido back.” It means redefining what intimacy and connection mean to you, on your terms.

In reality TV land, an ultimatum makes for great drama: “Commit to me or lose me.” But in actual queer relationships, where vulnerability, identity, and power dynamics already run deep, ultimatums don’t work the way we wish they would.

You are allowed to be loved as a whole person — not just a helpful one, a low-maintenance one, or a put-together one.

If we’re serious about queer freedom—about safety, dignity, mental health, and joy—we must be just as serious about dismantling anti-Blackness in our communities, our movements, and ourselves.

Today, I want to get into the difference between emotional expression and emotional attack — and why learning the difference is the key to actually getting more of what you want out of your relationship (instead of slowly poisoning it because your sadness is wearing a bulletproof vest and your anger is wielding a knife).