Queer Relationship Immersions
One- or two-day tailor-made relationship intensives for couples and polycules looking to build love beyond the default.
Question?
Has your partnership constellation felt ignored or overlooked by the mental health field?
Are you turned off by the prospect of relationship counseling because you can't trust that you and your partner(s) will be respected and understood by your provider?
Or maybe you're fed up with providers implementing worn out therapeutic techniques that were designed with only cis-het couples in mind?
Us too.
And while the word queer might signal "not for me" to some folks — here's what we mean by it:
To queer something is to challenge rigid norms and assumptions. It's not just about identity — it's about rethinking default scripts, getting curious about what actually works for you, and building relationships rooted in authenticity over rote habit.
Whether you identify as queer or not, this process is for you if you're ready to ask:
"What if we made this relationship feel more like ours?"
Answer?
designed for anyone—LGBTQ+, straight, monogamous, poly, unconventional, or simply self-aware—who wants to step out of autopilot and into deeper connection, creativity, and clarity.
Queer Relationship Immersions
A Six-Hour Deep Dive to Reimagine and Reinvent Your Relationship
There’s no manual for building a relationship that’s conscious, connected, and genuinely your own—especially when you’re trying to chart a path that doesn’t look like your parents’, your friends’, or what you see on TV.
Maybe things feel stuck, but you can’t name exactly what changed.
Maybe conflict has become a loop you can’t seem to break.
Maybe you’re staring down a big decision—or a quiet, aching distance—and you’re not sure what happens next.
This is where Relationship Immersions come in.
Six structured, spacious hours—away from distractions, pressure, and autopilot—to name what’s not working, reconnect to what matters, and design your next chapter with intention.
Unlike weekly couples therapy, which can take months to build momentum or trap you in the minutiae of everyday problems, Immersions are a catalyst ideal for partnerships that want to go deep, fast. Whether you're seeking clarity about how to move forward, aching to feel close again, or ready to break a painful cycle once and for all, this format is built to meet you where you are.
You don’t have to be queer to benefit—but we center “queering” as a practice:
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Less hierarchy, more honesty.
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Less defaulting to gender roles, more curiosity and creativity.
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Less “fixing,” more freeing.
This is for any couple or polycule brave enough to examine what they’ve inherited, challenge what no longer fits, and co-create something that actually feels right.
What Happens During a Relationship Immersion
While every partnership’s experience is unique, the immersion follows a purposeful arc—designed to build momentum, move beneath the surface, and generate real change. Rooted in a relational, psychodynamic, and queer-affirming lens, here’s how we move through the work:
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Ground & Join
We begin by slowing everything down. You name what hurts, what’s stuck, and what’s been unspoken. We’ll map the patterns without blame and build trust—between you and me, and between each other.
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Name the Truth
With care and respect, we get honest about the dynamics keeping you disconnected. We explore how protective parts, family roles, and old wounds show up in the present. This is about truth—not shame.
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Break the Cycle
Together, we interrupt reflexive patterns like withdrawal, criticism, control, and collapse. You’ll practice new ways of engaging in real time—with direct support from me—using tools to help you stay connected even in conflict.
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Build What’s Next
We explore the kind of relationship you actually want. You’ll co-create new language, rituals, and commitments rooted in authenticity—not obligation or outdated scripts.
The Details
Relationship Immersions are six hours total, delivered in two 3-hour sessions. You choose what works for your life:
🕓 Weekday Evenings
Two back-to-back evenings for working couples who need time to digest and reflect.
🕘 Weekends
A single-day experience with a restorative break in the middle for those ready to go deep without interruption.
All sessions take place in person at my private office in the Historic Oakwood neighborhood of Raleigh—a warm, grounded space designed to support the kind of brave, connective work most relationships don’t get in the day-to-day grind.
What's Included:
💵 Your investment: $1,500
➕ Optional 60-minute follow-up sessions are available at $190/hour and can be scheduled anytime in the weeks or months after your immersion.
You’ll receive:
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Six hours of dedicated, immersive relationship work
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A personalized aftercare package with key insights, themes, and tools from your session
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Light refreshments and access to a beautiful outdoor space for breaks
Not Sure If It's The Right Fit?
Before you make this kind of investment—financially, emotionally, relationally—I invite you to schedule a free 30-minute consultation with me, Marley Toben, LCSW.
This isn’t a sales pitch. It’s a chance to talk openly about what’s happening in your relationship, what you’re hoping for, and whether this kind of deep, focused work is right for you.
You deserve to feel confident in who you're working with and how they show up. And the truth is, you won’t know if this is worth it—until we talk.
About Marley
I’m a quirky, queer, thirty-something LCSW with years of specialized training supporting folx of all orientations and relationship configurations in getting the love they want.
I’m kink-, trans-, poly-, and nonconformist-affirming. And I understand both the universal doldrums of long-term partnership and the unique challenges of navigating minority stress, internalized -isms, family of origin dynamics, and the expansive terrain of love, intimacy, and connection that exists far beyond the cis-het scripts we’ve been handed.
If you’ve ever felt excluded from the systems meant to care for you, the shame is on them—not you.
These Immersions are my way of beginning to right that wrong.
With capitalism and hustle culture biting at our heels, our time has never been more precious. These intensives are for people who don’t want to wait months or years to experience meaningful, lasting change.
They can also be an excellent accelerator to the therapy you may already be doing.
Reach out to see if this experience is right for you.
We get it.
The mental health field wasn't built for us. If you and your partner(s) haven't been understood and celebrated through "traditional" therapy, QRI was made for you. Don't pour any more of your time, energy, and soul into those normy, one-size-fits-all approaches. Your relationship matters.