

Dating While Sober
Many people find it awkward or intimidating to step into the dating pool after quitting alcohol. Although it can be a daunting step to take, there are plenty of ways to make it an easier and perhaps even enjoyable experience.
Maybe it’s just me, but it feels like a remarkably weird time to be a human. Navigating the world around you while simultaneously trying to show up for your obligations, relationships, and self can be complicated and overwhelming, to say the least. Mister Rogers, the patron saint of kindness and cardigans, once said “Anything that’s human is mentionable, and anything that is mentionable can be more manageable.” My responsibility and privilege as a therapist is to meet you in our mutual humanness, provide a safe container for you to talk about the things that may not feel mentionable in the rest of your life, and support you as you learn, unlearn, or re-learn how to make your life feel more manageable.
I know firsthand what it’s like to acknowledge that somewhere along the way, things became unmanageable and help is needed to get back on track (or find a new track entirely). Among other identities I’m a queer person who is late-diagnosed neurodivergent and in long-term recovery from substance use disorder, which means that I get the non-linearity of living and growing. I’m honored to be present for and with others as they embrace the courage and vulnerability of change. One of the resounding themes across my personal and professional experiences is that we don’t exist in a vacuum; our mental health and who we are as people is continually shaped by things like our background, identities, relationships, perspective, and environment.


My approach to therapy is relational, non-coercive, and strengths-based. My practice is inclusive of a diverse range of experiences and identities but I tend to work with older teens and adults who are queer, neurodivergent, have complex trauma, and clients who want to change their relationship with substances or maintain recovery from addiction. I find that humor, genuineness, curiosity, and patience are some of the most important traits I have as a therapist. I show up in session as a real person, not an expert on an ego trip. Yes, I want to hear about and see pictures of your pets/art/cool snowglobe collection. No, I can’t tell you exactly what to do as if I have all the answers because I sure as hell don’t.
I’m here to help you untangle the shame that keeps you caught up in self-criticism and fear; to explore and affirm your queerness, your neurodivergence, all of the identities that make you YOU; to collaborate with you to re-evaluate the role that drugs or alcohol play for you; to support you in bringing your whole, genuine self not just into the therapy process but to your life outside of it. Let’s work together to create a safe, welcoming space for you to do the messy but rewarding work of living authentically and in alignment with your values, purpose, and joy.
Dog's Name:
Lucy (or, depending on who/when you ask: Lucille, Loose Goose, The Goose, Goosey, Lucifer, The Baby, Dancey, Baby Dumps, and too many other names to list!). Lucy is a rescue Boxer that my partner and I adopted in March 2024.
Favorite Podcasts:
The Sam Sanders Show, Handsome, Betwixt the Sheets
Favorite TV Show:
Somebody Somewhere. It’s an unfortunately short-lived show about friendship, grief, and finding meaning in the people, places, and things you love. It’s deeply funny, unapologetically queer, and the most authentic show I’ve ever seen.